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Having a Considerate Birthday Party

by, Stephanie Knight

During my work as a school counselor, I frequently had teary children in my office with their feelings hurt because they were not invited to a birthday party. It is vital for children’s emotional and social development to be connected in their primary and middle school years. Children’s desire to belong is so strong, that it can make or break their year. Being excludedfrom a party can be potentially devastating for a child. Here a few hints to help your child be more considerate about planning his or her birthday party.

1. Wait to hand out invitations after school hours, or mail invitations. This will prevent some hurt feelings and will help your child build empathy. Some schools, including my schools, have rules that children cannot give out party invitations during school hours. Speak with your child about having discretion regarding their party in a kind manner.

2. Consider having a class-wide birthday party. From my experience, these are the parties that have kids talking all year and can teach your children to embrace diversity. It may cost a bit more, but try to be creative in ways to cut back in other areas.

3. During the party, design games that encourage all of the members to intermix.Cliques can certainly develop within the party,and it is important to be mindful of this potential. Avoid games that involve picking teams. Speak with your children about including and introducing other members.