Q: Is there a difference in how you use paper and cloth napkins?
A: No, you set and use paper and cloth exactly the same.
Q: When eating sushi family style, is there a correct way to take from a communal plate?
A: Yes, if you turn the chopsticks around, pick up the sushi with the opposite end, and put it on your plate. Then you can turn the chopsticks around and continue eating.
Q: Is it ever appropriate to tuck a napkin in your shirt?
A: Not unless you are under the age of two. One of the key functions of the napkin is to keep our clothes clean. If we keep the napkin above the lap, it defeats the purpose of the napkin because most food that falls off of our plate lands in our lap.
Q: At a luncheon with several tables, when is it appropriate to begin eating?
A: As an average rule, 75% of the table should be seated or served before you start eating. You do not have to wait for every table to be seated before you begin eating.
Q: How do I know if my children are included in an invitation?
A: First, if the invitation is sent in the mail, look to see to whom the invitation is addressed. For example: If the invitation was addressed to Mr. and Mrs. Smith, the children are not included. If the invitation said Mr. Robert Smith and Family, the children are included. If the invitation is extended by telephone or e-mail, it is perfectly acceptable to contact the host or hostess and ask. We must never assume that everyone has the same comfort with children that we do. As a guest, we must respect the wishes of our host or hostess.